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Charulatha Banerjee's avatar

Raju Raju- I admire your courage. Take a bow. Just so overwhelmed. I want a speck of the courage - maybe one of those oiled curls too. 😻

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Raju Tai's avatar

Thank you, Charulatha, for reading with such love. Feel so grateful. 💚

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Neena Verma's avatar

Your will, courage & ability to face & affirm your vulnerabilities ... even more, to give it creative reframe ... are so heartwarming & inspiring. May your creative resilience spread its magic far and wide dear Raju

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Sumira Khan's avatar

So beautiful! I got teary-eyed reading the end. Like something was set free. Maybe it's time to unghost my ghosts.

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Jocelyn's avatar

Beautifuly written. You capture all the awe and tenderness of thinking you have found someone you connect with. And then the emptiness of the ghosted self. I think this happens to everyone sometime, and not just with a boyfriend or girlfriend. It might happen with your own family and you begin to believe that YOU are the ghost that no one sees.

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Alaknanda Sengupta's avatar

I remember reading the plot of this story before. This version is snappy, each sentence hitting home hard, the story moving with confidence to its conclusion! Amazing, Raju!

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Raju Tai's avatar

Thank you, Alaknanda, for noticing how the essay has evolved... So grateful for your reading. 💚

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Shikha's avatar

Gosh. I felt every bit of it. Now I'm wondering how many therapy sessions I might need to be able to un-ghost someone. Deep sigh. So happy for you to be able to do it. And written so beautifully. Love.

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Shakti Salgaokar's avatar

So beautiful, so much courage. Though we can't control it when someone ghosts us, we control the ability to unghost whoever we want. Such a powerful shift in dynamics of relationships.

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Harry's avatar

Love love love this one! I cracked up at “I unghost you!” Always a pleasure to read your articles! Keep them coming!

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Chaitanya Govande's avatar

Loved this! Here’s wishing you many more Swipe Rights ahead…

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Kanchan Balani's avatar

Absolutely loved it, Raju. That last line - wow too good ❤️

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Koyel Lahiri's avatar

How are you so generous? And so at ease? How to arrive at a place like this? :)

I have a hard time with living ghosts. Who continue in your life but fade fade fade and then suddenly become human then fade fade fade again.

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Mukta Naik's avatar

Absolutely beautiful!

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Hs🌻's avatar

🥹❤️

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Isha Jain's avatar

This made me smile, frown and then grin. Thank you.

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Raju Tai's avatar

Thank you, Isha.. and Hi! 💚

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Isha Jain's avatar

Hi! It was a pleasure to read this one.

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Dipali Taneja's avatar

Loved this! Though it would have been awful to live through.

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Raju Tai's avatar

Thank you, Dipali. 💚 It was, but so grateful we can write about it and release..

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Your feature in the Hindustan Times popped up on my time this afternoon. How cool is that! Congratulations!!

Imagine if that article 'ghosted' its way to the screen of your ghoster's phone too....

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