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So true, numbers are kinder than our beliefs about money. Because beliefs are built on stories we tell ourselves, and sometimes the stories can be nonfiction, like math :)

Love the candour and bare-all courage of this essay. I flinched, because so much of this is me, but I also relaxed because the answer is so clearly snuck into its riddle ❤️

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Thanks dearest Swaati. Nishi is right, I wait for your reading.

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Gosh Raju, this takes my breath away. You know how much I love essays that start in the middle and end without ending. This one offers a new beginning at the end, yaniki bonus!

I love that you talk of money. And tell stories...we have all lived and rarely storied honestly.

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Ah! Thanks Natasha, having you read these stories is what feels truly 'rich' and the way you notice the structure and the nuance is 💖

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Honest - bare - vulnerable…I see you Raju. Your essay takes me back to different stages in my life. When I came to Delhi as a college student, or began my career, when I set my first house and learnt run it in a budget, to the first lessons in investing from my father…how I rebelled!! To bring jobless after motherhood, to learning to live with less, not asking for attention, or finding excuses to not buy clothes, spend a day in the parlour or eat at an upmarket place. I see myself in all this and more…thank you for writing my story.

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Thank you Rituparna ♥️ for sharing so many glimpses and reading the way you do. 🌼

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I have only recently had the guts to say this to friends, because I have been broke before, but not as much, and not at a time when other's aren't. There are only a few people we can bring ourselves to admit this to, but here you are telling us all. Thank you <3. for making me feel less alone in my brokeness.

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❤️🌺 Ah Thank you Shreya! This means a whole lot to me. It encourages me.

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Raju...thank you for bringing up the unspoken.

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Relatable honest work!

I too have been there. And have also seen the cycle of getting attracted to a high paying job to then saying I won’t work for money.

And, and, Natasha and you showed me how friendships blossom even without burning cash in a cafe! ❤️

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that’s such a wonderful thing to say.. thank you ♥️

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A beautifully written article on a subject that needs candid conversation!! Loved it! I am sure everybody can relate to it on different levels!

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Thank you Harry, so glad to read your thoughtful comment ♥️🌼

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I felt like your post gave words to so many of my feelings. Gendered negligence, yes, that's me.

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thank you, Fiona. ☺️🩷

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Love your honest account of our relationship with money, so relatable! Shoestring budgets are something to grapple with at all life stages for various reasons. It's been hardest laying down my boundaries with friends/family when it comes to money, but I am getting better at it gradually.

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It is such a journey, isn't it? Some people take a flight to financially-savvy-land but most take trains and buses. On some days it feels like walking slowly. Even going backwards. Thank you for reading and responding, Sai.

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Loved the writing. While the anecdotes are personal, the ubiquitous nature of it makes it relatable for most who would read it.

This reluctance as a society to discuss money has been on my mind. I wrote a piece on it as well on my Substack.

https://kahanikikhoj.substack.com/p/the-hush-hush-tone-of-money-ki-baat

P.S. - Being a Nagpuri, loved stumbling on the city references.

Also binge reading the other pieces now.

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Yay...Thank you!! :) Excited to read your pieces on Substack too.. And hello to fellow Nagpuri :)

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<3

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Hey. And <3

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You write for many of us, definitely for me ... many thanks for yet another courageous post

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Thank you so much Neena. I am grateful for your comments, they really add more courage when it's running low.. ❤️🌺

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❤️

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So moving. How can you so honest in your writing? So much power to you. So much love to you.

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Thank you for reading with so much love too ❤️🌺

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hard relate. love TTMM!!! especially when one is a non drinker in a group of drinkers! beautiful writing as always

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Thanks Nikita ❤️❤️🌺 heard the comment in your voice and realised that i miss it.. hope to speak to you soon..

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A much needed conversation🙌🏼

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Thank you for affirming that Bhumika ❤️🌺

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