People Pleasers Unite

Pleasant ways to handle your inner people pleaser

Alphonse Mucha

Hello and welcome to my

✨ CREATIVE PEOPLE PLEASING MASTERCLASS ✨

Flatter, fawn, people-please like never before 💋

Are you

• Tired of having a spine? 🤦‍♀️

• Bored of healthy boundaries? 🥱

• Unmotivated to make all 3129 people in your life adore you to death? 🤷‍♀️

🎯 You are in the right place. Take your people-pleasing to the next level!

• Don’t just praise your colleagues. Enter the office slowly so they can finish gossiping about you. 🤫

• Don't just share your writing with intellectual friends, anticipate their criticism and add disclaimers 🏋️‍♀️

• Don’t just wonder why someone ignores you, like all their posts until they feel guilty 🥰

Why choose fight, flight, freeze when you can FAWN - the trending trauma response 😍

Learn how to:

• Crawl around bosses, parents, elders 🙏

• Coddle your students, children, employees 😘

• Get on your own wrong side to be on everyone's right side ✌

💝 What are you waiting for? Come, find your tribe of budding people-pleasers!

We can transform any ordinary self-respecting person into a

WORLD-CLASS EGO-MASSEUSE.

Still unsure? Well, we offer a 100% refund.

[Actually, don’t even pay. Just click like on this post. If you feel like it. No pressure.]

Meet Your Facilitator

Raju Tai, an award-winning people-pleaser, began approval-seeking at the age of three. She’s earned nods from bosses, neighbours, grocers, and the toughest crowd: her parents. When someone frowns, she strikes fast - with praise, laddoos, and apologies. In her spare time, which is less since people-pleasing is a full-time business, she dreams of a world where self-love doesn’t ruin her craft.

And now, here’s the actual masterclass:

Pleasant Ways to Handle Your Inner People Pleaser

1. Accept that you can’t murder her. Actually, she’s a survivor. She kept your career and friendships from blowing up. She is not a villain. Just a poorly managed superpower.

2. Ask her to take a nap. Delete two emojis from all your texts.

3. Use her favourite tools to persuade her. ‘Thank you for protecting me. But can I please say no to this project so I can get some sleep?’

4. Notice who she doesn’t please — creepy colleagues, right-wing uncles, even left-wing bros. She has values.

5. Channel her energy into plant-pleasing. (Don’t drown the poor plant.)

6. Offer her love. She was born when someone hurt you. When you vowed, ‘I’ll never hurt anybody’. Tell her it’s impossible to not hurt people. Especially if you want to do the right thing.

7. Confront her. People pleasing looks innocent but it is pretty manipulative.

8. Joke about her with your friends. Swap stories about the crazy shit she made you do.

9. Notice her body language in yours. Are you crouching, shrinking, fake-smiling? Unclench and see the fawning dissipate.

10. Remember the energy it takes to please the forever disappointed.

11. Do nothing. It unsettles her because you can always do something for someone. But nothing is often the best thing you can do for others and yourself.

12. Remind her: you are also one of the people to be pleased. Your pleasure is the ultimate antidote.

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Which method might work best with your inner people pleaser? Add to this list.

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Join us this May, for The Rhythm of our Stories — a creative writing workshop presented by Natasha Badhwar, and facilitated by Raju Tai and Vimal Chitra.